Friendship VS Love

Everyone will come across these two complicated words once in their life..Friendship and love.. Doesn't it looks like these two words are so much related to each other and both are so dissimilar at the same time.

We have seen many arguments such as , Is friendship is only possible between same sex? or Is platonic friendship possible between persons of opposite sex? .

I still remember the day when we had drinking party and started discussing about these two complicated words.. One of my friend says love is lust, another one say love is companionship and some one said love start from friendship and ends in feelings and knowing each other without expressing themselves and Again another one love needs long term commitments and so on..... I am just trying to put some of these things into simple words for these two complicated words of life i.e love and friendship.

What is friendship? When do we call someone a very good friend? If we like each other,care for person and if we are always ready to help that person then they are our good friends. we certanily need not to explain our reactions to our good friends. The friendship is so deep and relationship is so intimate, that most of the things are automatically understood by our friends.

Then question arises in mind if this is friendship then what is love?. In relationship of love all the sharing that we discussed above are taken for granted. During love, we are attached with a particular person and feel jealous for his/her dates. while in friendship, one may have many friends. Love also involves a physical element. Friendship does not have that. This is a vital difference. Nature gives us love so that the species can go forward. Nature does not give us friendship.

You will not lie awake at night thinking about your friend and heart beats will never increase in anticipation of meeting your friend. You dont feel difference if you don't talk to your friend for a few days.Where as in love you feel jealous of his/her dates and start missing them if u dont talk for few days..you will do all this and much more .

Friendship is the platform for the love journey.when you have been overprotective of her since she has been seeing the jerk. You've been having very strong feelings of attraction and a desire for something more than friendship. Could it be that your feelings for him/her have grown into something more? If so, your relationship may have developed into a "friend crush" which is start of love.

When friend crush develop between two people ,there is always different ways people behave themselves. You don't know what to do but You know you want to continue spending time together- more time. But it's getting hard. There are different options people choose at this point of time without giving single thought..

First one, Ignore your feelings, keep your boundaries in check and pretend everything is same.
In order to choose this option, you must be able to deny your feelings so well that even you don't know what they are. You will also have to continue being comfortable on the sidelines while someone else has the relationship with this person that you desire. You will most likely be asked what you think of this or that person and be expected to be happy and supportive of your friend when they meet the right someone for them.Here your cheating your own feelings.

Second one, Begin to spend less time with your friend (crush) while seeking out new friendships to pursue and strengthen

Most people choose this option.It will most likely cause confusion and hurt on the part of your friend who will wonder what happened. They may be understanding and accepting of your need to spread your wings and support you in doing what you need to do. Either way, you will see less of them and your relationship can weaken and perhaps disappear altogether as they move on with new people.

Third one and very less choosen, Have an open and honest discussion with your friend regarding your new feelings for them.
This is the choice that seems to be the hardest for people to make. Often what I hear from people in this position is that they fear "ruining the friendship" if they discuss their feelings honestly. While this is a very understandable concern, it isn't well thought out. It is emotional, not rational. Look again at the other options. Every above option will bring about a change in your current friendship.

Once your feelings have changed, so does the relationship. Ignoring them, hiding them or distancing yourself will lessen your closeness and the positive dynamics that flow between good friends. You can't go back. You need to decide how you want to move forward or if this is an option for you. . It is also possible in choosing this option that you will learn that they have similar feelings for you that they were afraid to reveal. Therefore choosing this option could result in romance based on true friendship.

The choice will always be yours. Choosing wisely is about really knowing the options, the consequences they bring and what will be best for you and your friend.

It's not always true that love needs to be end up in long term commitments infact Love is warm and sweet feeling between two persons who are happy being with each other, share every moments of life with each other,love each other without any conditions and last but not least wish to spend time with each other till destiny takes them in different path..

Friendship blooms by natural impulsion that may or may not necesssarily end up in love. Some people reserved the separate platform specifically for love journey and they call themselves good friends to cheat the gullible person and degrading their own relationship. I wish they knew " What is love and friendship".